11 years old - He's breaking up with me...

I have an 11-year-old daughter who has recently started junior high.  She was recently having boy troubles, which is like the end of the world.  I listen to her problems and try to help her guide through life like all moms try to do.  She was talking about someone cheating on someone, and of course, that perked my interest.

She was talking about how someone was talking on the phone and texting another girl.  Her friend was breaking up with him because he was cheating...

WAIT A MINUTE, WHAT DID YOU SAY CHILD?

Did she just say her friend was breaking up with him because he is cheating on her by talking and texting someone else?  I state this fact to my child and make sure that we have an understanding that is what she meant by what she said.  Sure as shit, it was.  Of course, being the outspoken mother I tend to be I explain to my daughter that cheating involves sex, physical contact or other adult things.  I inquired as to why she thought texting and talking to another girl would be considered cheating, and she had no idea?  That is just what everyone thinks.

Explain to your daughters and sons that it is not okay to put this kind of restrictions on your significant other.  Not only should she not even have a boyfriend in my opinion (we dumped him by the way) but she does not need to be telling any little boy who he can talk to and who he can be friends with.  I am not sure where her friend got the idea.  How can someone make this decision and believe she is right if she doesn't know how she came to the conclusion that talking and texting is cheating.  Then it dawned on me just how much they don't know and don't understand.  

So I decided to challenge you.  Challenge you to be a better parent.

Teach your children to find their voice.  
Teach your children to follow their passions.  
Teach your children to fall down, and get up.
Teach your children to that life is hard.
Teach your children to find themselves.
Teach your children to discover their inner self.
Teach your children to love themselves.

Do all this by showing them.  Find your voice to speak the truth to your children.  Find and follow your passions so they can see how much joy and opportunities are found.  Share your mistakes and relate your experiences with your children so that they don't make the same ones, and make sure to do by showing them you are not perfect.  Make sure they know every good thing in life comes with hard work.  Give them the space to listen to their inner voice so that they find what they are good at.  Don't ever let them settle for anything.  Push them, make sure they really know they can do anything.  Let them explore new things and new experiences so that they can find what truly makes them happy.  Most importantly, make sure that they know you love them.  We put a lot on the shoulders of our children.  The least we could do for them is prepare them.  

Love you, 
A. Levesque

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